When you're looking to fall in love, one thing you should avoid is lowering your standards. Not only does it suck it also makes you look weak
Lowering Your Standards
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We now live in a time where things are far more difficult to find the right one. Whether it is due to social media influence, media, or mental gymnastics, finding the right one is hard. However, one thing you should avoid lowing your standards. Here are 7 reasons why lowing your standards can be a bad idea.
1. You won't be truly satisfied
Firstly, one thing you don’t want to feel like is that you have been ripped off because you aren’t truly satisfied. In this case, this will be your own doing because you decided to take whatever is out there. By lowering your standards you’re stuck in a mediocre relationship for playing yourself. Don’t do it, please.
If you do feel you deserve better than someone great for you then you’ll need to take your time and wait it out.
2. You'll be getting less than owed
The next reason not to lower your standards is that you’ll be getting less than you’re owed. People with low standards will take anything just to say that they have something. In the end, if you decide to settle with someone you don’t want to be with.
If you don’t want to feel like you are being robbed before your eyes then you’ll need to take some time to get what’s deserved
3. Bringing lowering vibrations
Another way to get women to want to go out with you is to have some class. While all women won’t want to go out with you, the ones that like the finer things in life and class will back you up for having it. What does it look like to have class? It looks like a man with real standards. As far as the visual side of things a classy man is well dressed and clean. It’s also got to do with being clean and having a decent attitude similar to James Bond.
For most a classy man is the type that you can take home to mother.
4. Lower Standards = Toxicity
When you make lower standards apart of your life you are not only inviting trouble into your life, you are asking for toxicity. Incase you aren’t sure what toxicity is you can think of eating a unhealthy sandwich. While it may not kill you today, in a long run you will feel the death from the after math. This same thing applies to when you lower your standards. Toxic things are know to kill/ruin you sooner or later so decide if the time and effort you’re putting into the basket is actually worth.
The best way to avoid falling for the toxic tale of doom is being able to recognize what this things are.
Read my article: 7 signs of a toxic person
5. You'll be treated like crap
Another reason not to lower your standards is the fact that sooner or later people will treat you like crap. I mean don’t feel too bad about it because you kinda would have bring this upon yourself for not being patient. Sometimes in life you need to get the fisherman’s mentality and wait it out. Get the bait ready and wait! if you rush it you get nothing or a waste of resources. In this case the YOUR resources is your time given.
If you don’t want to be treated like dirt then don’t lower your standards.
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6. You'll mentally checkout often
If anyone is a Cleveland Cavs fan you’d remember what mentally checking out often looks like. It’s when you’re present but you are day dreaming about something bigger or better… same thing Lebron James did before he left Cleveland Cavs for Miami Heats. Over time some may notice that you don’t seem all there, even worse not emotionally invested. Imagine taking someone out on a date and it should be fun but it isn’t because they aren’t mentally with you. This has happened to me when I was dating in the pastÂ
Unlike others I knew the signs and better therefore I moved on as you should if you’re here and gone at the same time.
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7. Regret will haunt you
Nothing is worse than living with regret. Just because you don’t regret it now doesn’t mean you won’t regret it later. In fact the regret may grow so bad that it may haunt you! Lowering your standards in a relationship or just in general will be something you’d look back on and say “Dam, I wish is said this or that”. Don’t wait till the last minute to say no this is offensive.Â
Say it now or hold your peace.
Nothing is wrong with sparing others and accepting loneliness if you know better. Trying to be with someone because you are afraid to wake up alone is a dumb thing to do the best thing you can do is work on yourself to become what you need to be in life and attract the type of people that like the same kind of things you do.
Therefore, don’t lower your standards
Check out my latest article: 7 signs of a toxic person